Family mediation is a process where two or more people can come together and talk about their problems in an informal atmosphere. The mediator will help the parties to agree on how to resolve their issues, or at least find ways that they can get along better. This means that you are working with the other party to reach a solution instead of trying to force your point of view on them. Here are some tips for preparing for family mediation.
1. Be open-minded
It's easy when you're feeling angry or hurt because someone has done something wrong to have all thoughts be focused on what they did wrong and not think about possible solutions. But if you go into mediation thinking solely about what was done in the past, it makes it much harder to find a resolution. So instead, try to come into the mediation room with an open mind, willing to listen and consider what the other person has to say and focusing on the future.
2. Do your research
Family mediation is a voluntary process, so you don't have to do it if you don't want to. However, if both parties decide that they would like to try mediation, it's essential that each person does some preparation beforehand. This includes finding out about the mediator and what their role will be in the mediation process. It also means gathering together any information or documentation that might be relevant to the mediation.
3. Be realistic
The mediator is there to help you find solutions. If you go into mediation with unrealistic expectations, it's much less likely that a solution can be found. This doesn't mean giving in every time the other person says something you do not agree with, but it does mean being willing to compromise and take their views on board if this will lead to an outcome both parties are satisfied with.
4. Be prepared
This is especially important if you're going into family mediation to resolve a specific issue. For example, if it's regarding child arrangements (formerly known as custody, access and contact) that you want to talk about, then do your research on the topic and think about solutions for what will happen when each of you has the children. It may seem obvious, but make sure everyone involved knows exactly where they stand in terms of issues such as childcare costs or holidays before entering the mediation room.
5. Don't rush into mediation
You should never feel pushed or forced to attend family mediation. If the other party tries to pressure you, it's essential that you speak about this with your mediator. Whatever happens, your mediator will try their best to ensure you do not feel pressured into anything you do not want to do!
In conclusion, family mediation is a unique process that allows both parties to come together and resolve their issues. It's important to be prepared, so you can go into it feeling confident but also ready for whatever arises during the meeting.
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If you think family mediation might be the right direction for you and your family, contact Family Law Mediation today. With over 15 years of experience in supporting couples and families going through a divorce and understand how stressful the experience can be. We offer family mediation Nottingham, mediation Leicester, as well as mediation Derby.
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